“第三就是因为你。”戴柯渐直视着她的眼睛，一字一字道，“因为那人是你，所以我乐意被你算计和陷害，只要你高兴。”
第一感觉是感动。然后就觉得这话简直就是放屁。只要有些自尊心的女孩儿，都会讨厌被骗。这就跟我爸似的。对待他的第二次婚姻，他告诉我他的维持方法就是让邹红妈妈总是认为自己是对的。这简直就是另类的欺骗方式。
Thanks for the 50 cents tip..
First of all.. Happy Bday to Susan~ (not me, another susan.. >_>)
Susan, if you are reading this, you probably will figure out what I’m about to say just from the title.. I went with Susan and a few of her friends tonight to celebrate her birthday. The last stop was at a bubbletea place on College street close to Spadina called 168 Teashop or something similar. We stayed there for about 2~3 hours and everyone placed a order. In the end, we went up to the counter and requested separate bills. Mine came to a total of 5.12, and since I remember the original price was 4.49, I calculated how much I need to pay for tips (I usually just pay the tax). I gave the waitress 10 and took 4.25 back from the tray. I was the last one to pay so the other girls started heading out already at this point. I then heard the waiter behind the counter collecting all the trays said, “Thanks for the 50 cents tip, guys.” I soon realized that the other girls did not pay any tips, so he was referring to my place of tips. I felt pretty bad after hearing that, but I wasn’t sure why. Well, I can now relate my emo-ness to some possible reasons:
1. The waiter was being an ass about 2 bucks worth of tips
2. I got the blame for something I wasn’t responsible for
3. The waiter felt bad
I think it was probably a combination of all three.. I don’t think I would get upset if the waiter didn’t say anything, but I know I would still get upset if I realized that the waiter felt bad about not receiving tips, so I put the third reason down. I think the first two was easy to come up with though. The waiter should not have said that to begin with, that’s just rude. There are many ways to request tips from customers with a different kind of attitude. The second one was easy to come up with, but I’m not sure whether if I was actually upset because of that, simply because I don’t really care about taking the blame for anything. I always put more responsibilities on myself anyway.
Despite everything I’ve said.. the waiter probably just had a rough day.. probably didn’t direct it on me and probably already forgot about it by now.. I should really go to bed O_O
polygamy
Polygamy – The condition or practice of having more than one spouse at one time.
Do you believe in polygamy? Most people would answer to me straight up claiming a solid no. I wonder tho, if society and moral values are being put behind us, would we still think that polygamy is not an acceptable, working, and healthy condition of relationships?
Why do we believe in monogamy? Is it because we truly believe in soulmate and that we are pre-determined to be with that single person for life? No. In this 21st century, divorce rates are climbing sky-high in every modern country. Then is it because we feel that we should be responsible for one person and no one else? No. Because the word cheating has been invented for a reason – the practise exists. Or is it because we feel the ought to restrict ourselves because we are human? That I can’t answer because I’m not sure what human ought to do.
In my opinion, as human beings we are by nature curious and this curiosity doesn’t end, period. Even when we are with the dearest one, the one you felt deeply attracted to, you will still be curious about others. You will never stop searching in your mind. But you might not present your actions because we are also by nature lazy. We figure that we should be content with ourselves, thus we stop trying to reach for something else, something perhaps more suitable, better for us.
Perhaps the reason we adapt to monogamy is simply because we’re lazy? If every one of us openly accept new opportunities, what kind of world would we be living in? I pondered about this the whole day. Then it hit me, would I want my other half to have the opportunity to meet others even if I have the same kind of accessibility? No! I forgot that human beings by nature are also selfish. Partner is one thing that we don’t want to share and never will. Jealousy is a built-in function in our brain that is always extremely sensitive. Thus monogamy is the right choice for mankind.. so be it.
猫跟电脑
今天有个人说了一句让我感觉很别扭的话，以至我回不上话来。直到坐上了回家的公车上才明白自己为什么当时感觉不舒服。
那个人说他很喜欢猫，想要买一只猫。我很自然地就建议他去加拿大的保护动物协会去领养一只，因为那边有很多需要人照顾、无家可归的动物。他说他想要买一只猫，说想买一只纯种的，说这样会比较好。
我当时接不上话来，也没反应到他什么意思。我当时只是觉得为什么纯种的就好了。后来坐上车，才慢半拍地意识到自己真正的想法。
对于我来说，宠物带回家来是要我们照顾、看护的。并不是像电脑一样需要以储存量、显卡、硬盘等等去评价好于坏的。我觉得动物跟人一样，是没有纯种或杂种之分，也没有高贵与低贱等类似的分界。我不认为以一只动物是否纯与否来评价它的价值是有必要的。再者，我对一个喜爱动物的人的概念一直都停留在很单纯的喜爱上。也就是说我觉得一个真正喜爱猫的人应该喜欢并接纳所有的猫。
想到这里，我却不由自主地联想到了电脑。喜爱电脑的人可并不是喜欢所有的电脑。他们喜欢的是最先进最耀眼最炫酷的那一类。那么为什么我却认为喜欢猫的人就要喜欢所有的猫呢？说到底，还是因为我压根儿没觉得猫可以让人们像去买电脑一样地去评价好坏。
是我的思想太落后，还是他对所有事物都刻意主观化物质化了呢？我无从得知。不过我明白下次我听到另一个人这么评论动物的时候，我会及时告诉他们我的想法，而不会像这次一样半个小时过后才明白过来自己的想法。
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When women get sad they often get sadder than men do; when men get mad, they often get madder than women do ——> when it comes to time like such, men should learn to comfort women and women should learn to accomodate men~
the importance of knowing what you dont know
i realized that knowing what you dont know is a lot better than assuming you already knew everything.. not just because your attitude reveals the humbleness that lies within you, it also keeps you grounded as you move on in life.. and best of all, you are in control of what you do or do not know since you know exactly what you dont, reversely you know exactly what you do know..
on the other side of the speculum, assuming you already knew everything not only will lead you to the falsehood of role playing (since no one knows everything, unless you are the god), it will also drag you down as you progress.. what im trying to say is, cockiness will only bring you to a downfall, a very heavily weighted and never-ending downfall, unless you come to an epiphany and realize what you have not instead of what have you done..
end..
friendship
for some, friendship is the exchange of goods and benefits; for others it is more of an exchange of accompaniment..
though i wouldnt necessarily concur with the latter, i do pity those who treat their friends as business targets..
i wonder, how would one define companionship without using the word “exchange”?.. it depresses me to think that something we normally value so much is in any form of trading system..
when i help others, i dont expect anything in return.. so i ask myself, why would i choose to help others? the reason seems to be so simple and even i cannot understand the nature of this answer.. it is merely because i like to see the smile on their face or the satisfied expression or any indication that shows i’ve made a difference in the other persons matter.. sometimes the help is so effortless that i wouldnt even realize that i made a difference, but perhaps i am used to behave in such way and receive such reflections to the extent that this process is common to me..
if i must, then the exchange i am proceeding would be that i often expect the “fuzzy warm feeling”.. how is this different than receiving factual goods or benefits? i dont think there is to be honest.. they all serve the same purpose, to make ourselves feel satisfied and thinking that it is a worthwhile experience.. so does that mean friendship has to be defined in such way then? that it is a form of exchange? and the trade is usually based on personal preference on trivial matters? well the trivial matter can then be defined as good or evil..
for the case of good it would be harmless such as accompaniment; though for the case of evil it varies.. but the key of something that serves evil purposes would be that it has the potential to hurt others or performs wrongful acts..
now i ask myself, what kind of friends would i consider as friends? the kind that lasts long or the kind whos truthful to me? there would have to be a definition for long lasting friends and the level of truthfulness, which im not even sure about yet since i have only experienced eighteen years of my life and only encountered people from three areas on this globe.. but i do want to say though, that if i can choose and if i can differentiate, then i wouldnt want to choose a friend who uses me as a tool or expects something in return that serves evil purposes every time they help me out..
it is hard though, to identify such people, especially for me, because i treat them equally as others and their personal preferences cannot be revealed if i treat them equally as others.. tough luck i suppose.. it is not up to me to judge people and treat them differently according to any sort of preference because of the fact that i am not god.. if i cant determine how evil/good someone is, i shall give them the same amount of respect i give to others around me.. and that is how i value everyone.. and that is how i value friends..