I never thought it would be logical to force someone to feel something. It really doesn’t matter what that something is, the act of forcefully changing one’s emotion is rather imprudent. I realize that there were times that I can’t sympathize with one’s feelings, but there would be no way that I can falsify how that person felt. How can you even begin judging the truth value in how something can be felt? If it is not the matter of right or wrong, then why would you engage in the act of reversing the feelings of someone else? It could be that there is a direct correlation with how that person felt in relation with you such as something like this: you care about this person and the fact that he/she’s upset makes you worry. But there is no way to make him/her feel better by proving to him/her that the fact that he/she’s upset is merely stupid. It’s even more ridiculous trying to force someone to overcome their fear by pushing them. If I’m scared, then I shouldn’t feel like I need to pretend that I’m not. That’s actually one of the things that I honestly think is impossible to fake unless I need to do that for a living (ie. Acting?). Even so, I shouldn’t feel like I ought to do that to impress people around me, right? That’ll be just cruel.
Anyway, I’ve done that when I was a little girl with my dad. A lot, actually. I’ve always been scared of playgrounds. I know it sounds retarded, but I was. He’d force me to get in and play with other kids, but I was just scared. I’d get on a swing and cry. I was pretty much scared of everything in the playground. I knew it was embarrassing, but I can’t help it. Needless to say, my dad was embarrassed as well. As a result, he’d push me harder to get used to the playground. It never helped. If anything, I got even more scared. I was scared of many things when I was little. I used to think that the only thing that would keep me away from the things that I’m scared of is to fake a smile. I’ll have to pretend that I’m happy and cool with it until the other person is content. When that person is content, then I don’t have to deal with it anymore. Now that I’m older, I realize how stupid that was and how sad I was. I’d never want to do that again. Not for anyone.
I still think that our feelings come natural to us. Sometimes I can’t even explain why/how I felt what I felt. Those feelings inspire me to write, to draw, to design, to create. They spark my imagination and widen my mind to something new. There shouldn’t be any reason to suppress those feelings. It’s still embarrassing to cry in public, probably even more embarrassing now that I’m older, but it’s only natural. I guess I should be glad that I’m a girl; it’d probably take a lot more time for me to be brave enough to say that otherwise. If I felt it at heart, I’ll try my best to express it through the most natural way. By natural, I mean how we were as kids, just trying to keep it real.