i just found out that dingding got to know his current gf through the internet.. i think his dad did the same thing.. and on top of that, my dads trying it out while my mom is amazed at the dating network that her close friend is using recently..
am i really behind on technology or what..
trace said that its because ppl are more willing to spill out the truth online to strangers than to their friends, is that true?
so it would be easier to get to know a stranger online than in person? what kind of world are we living in now..
we no longer write mails, because everyone has an email account (don’t be surprised, even my grandparents use it..)
we no longer receive phone calls, because theres something called skype and its free!
we no longer visit friends from another city, because webcam does the job..
and just recently i realized that i probably have no way to contact more than half of my friends if i dont have access to the internet.. i constantly tell myself that i shouldnt rely on others, i honestly did not see this coming.. sure enough we can all live without the internet, but each and every day we’ve been depending heavily on its accessibility.. to the extent where it has a major impact on our social lives.. as well as work and academic but i dont even wanna get into that..
marshall mcluhan’s theory of “global village” can pretty much sums it up by now.. he originated the idea that human beings can extend their nervous system via a global neural net through the use of electronic media and devices.. for instance, he would view a radio as the extension of our ears; tv as eyes; transportation vehicles as feet… but now, most of which can simply be replaced with the internet.. we can grasp everything we need to know about sitting right in front of the computer with wireless connection..
dun get me wrong, i love the internet.. and i admit that i cant live without it (theres no way that i can afford to lose contact with more than half of my friends..) but perhaps i’ve relied too much on it?
__________________________________________________________________everytime i have this, it means below is a separate thought
trace and i were discussing how some ppl would only date vases.. but i realized that it might be easier to maintain the attraction that way if its merely physical.. based on the premise that we’re always changing, it would be a test of which element is changing faster than the other to generate a function of likelihood of mutual attraction.. for example, if one person is attraction to another because of certain trait that person possesses that is not physical (ie. the person is exceptional exceeding others in certain areas or maintained a certain interest that is mutual with the other person), then the person will either need to preserve that trait to keep the attraction or the other person will need to change what the attraction is based on in order to continue in the long run..
i’ll give a more specific example because i think my words are confusing as hell..
girlG likes boyB because he plays basketball really well
in reality, there will be so many other factors involved as well, so it’ll be even more complicated to discuss, but say we stick to that, then boyB will either need to maintain his skills in basketball or girlG needs to start liking something else about him..
however, if the case of such is girlG likes boyB because hes cute, then it’ll prob be easier to maintain since how we look will last longer than one of our traits..
obviously the ideal would be, they’re both changing and neither would be in conflict.. but im just saying that maybe physical attration is more important than one might think.. this is partially inspired by all of those surveys that ask the question of is looks more important than personality.. most ppl tend to write personality.. or personality + looks.. i have not yet seen anyone just putting down the single word looks yet..